July 23, 2017

Laughing and loving through the darkness

None of us ask for the life we are given. Many have lives that rarely see tragedy, pain, heartache. And many have lives that are nothing but.

My family fits mostly in the latter. The deaths of my dad and stepmom within 6 months of each other in 2012. The tragic death of my oldest son in 2013 and my daughter-in-law A suddenly getting thrown into single parenting of our three grandkids. The continual downward spiral of my husband's health. The struggle of my youngest son J with his anxiety and PTSD, seeing his brother killed before his eyes, his health, and a soured relationship. The deaths and suicides of extended family members and those who were like family.

Of course, I've had other stuff happen over my lifetime. Like my mama dying of cancer when I was 14 years old. The divorce from my first husband. My brother being diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and not seeing or knowing anything of him since 1987.

But, good golly Molly, these past 5 years have been constantly packed with things happening one right after another. *sigh* I found myself literally crawling through some of those deep valleys.

And yet...

There has always been the blessing from God of laughter and love.

Love and laughter go hand in hand. To love your family through tragedy and loss, grief, pain, sickness, depression, heartache. To find the moments – no matter how fleeting – of humor and happiness and memories. To encourage and pray for each other through it all.

This morning, our pastor challenged us to take this week to point to God for what others see in our lives. I do that already, but as pastor said, "If you have the Truth, then you have to share it." That's definitely a good reminder.

"You are the salt of the earth, but if it has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people's feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven." [Matthew 5:13-16]

And so it is only by a loving God that I and my family have been laughing and loving through the darkness of even the lowest valleys these past several years.

Next time I'll share a couple extremely joyous things that suddenly developed in the past couple months. I'm still dazed at how God answered prayer out of the blue! It was like...
* B O O M *
And now I'll leave you with a couple humorous moments courtesy of grandson A.

I was going through artwork the grandkids have done over the years for us and found the following, written by grandson A when he was in third grade:

Hmm. So talented. *cough* 🤣 I remember him singing it to us.

And just this past month (he's sixteen now):

Me: *repositioning the whale string art I made for his mom for Christmas last year*
Grandson: I really like how you did that, Gramma.
Me: Thank you, honey.
Grandson: Do you think it's possible to do that for the Kansas City Chiefs arrow?
Me: Mmm, I suppose it could be done.

One week later...

Grandson (to his mom): But Mommmm, you can't do a Chiefs string art! Gramma is going to make me one for Christmas!
Me: *deer caught in headlights look* 😨

Here's to a week full of laughter and love for everyone! 😃 💖


  1. You have been through a lot of pain and sorrow yet your are here encouraging us in your posts. Bless you dear Diana.

    1. Thank you so much for your words, Mary Ann, they mean so much to me! Thank you for being here as always!

  2. Diana, thank you for visiting Hope Heart Home over the weekend. I just read your post and am overwhelmed with compassion toward the troubles and trials God has chosen for you to bear. Heavy load but God seems to have given you a gift of laughter. I'd like to contact you again about a work / book I am going to be working this coming winter season. My email is hopehearthome@gmail.com

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts, Susan, and thank you for taking the time to visit! I'll be sending an email shortly. :)

  3. Diana, wow live has handed you some hard moments, but thank you for sharing the love, laughter and joy you find in the in-between. That is so encouraging. May you have a blessed and beautiful week.

    1. Aww, Barbie, you bless me with your words, thank you! So happy you came by!


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